Lighting the Fire

Consider that you might be in the wrong place if you find none of the following aligned. But, if you noticed any resistance breathes itself into your bones then we are good! If you think that you know it already, we are also good! The lighting of the fire will be necessary.

Let me go off the track for a bit as we need to fetch some firewoods and sticks for the fire before we can light it up.

To give a session, is it accurate that you would take hours to prepare your playlist? It takes time to create this thing. We all know and experienced it. Most of the time it’s enjoyable to do so, and sometimes it drives us crazy too. For some of us, not only the music, you even write scripts for your facilitation. It’s good if it’s good for you and your regular dancers. It’s for sure important to do things properly and well and express with clear essence.

Many people in the world of workshop facilitation and teaching do just that too – no big deal. We are not special, neither better than others, nor magical. If we can be honest about it, we can accept that a lot of that is to do with our own ego seeking perfection. We want to perform well, to be received as great or more than just good enough. Anything wrong with that? What do you think? I don’t say so personally.

But, just doing the personal work, investing in your own preparation, and trying to be great at it in your facilitation alone will not do it. To develop active interests and to make contributions to a growing, engaging tribe you must bring in more than just a great session. Hiding away cooking great playlists and tip-top scripts will not attract new people to the sessions at any good speed of time. But if your own perfection is all you want then it could end up being just all you will get.

Building up anything whether it’s DANCEmandala offering or other stuff you do for others to benefit from, you must be also about creating public awareness, actively inviting new participants while engaging with the current ones. We must express confidence and commitment in the thing that we are offering because trust is one of the keys to the heart. Give generously glimpses of the essence, the light (not ego) of who you are is another key.

In my internal conversation, I often asked myself these questions.

Are we making any new friends? Or are you too busy lighting the lamp just enough for yourself alone?

Here we are, setting out to learn about ourselves, to heal, share our gifts, inspire others, stay connected, explore our essence, keep the creative juice flowing. Ok, and paying the bills too is important. But can we get any of these done and going properly and effectively if we just sit and cringe about ‘promoting’ our good selves? Are you busy lighting the lamp just enough for yourself alone?

No one will know about what you’re offering if you don’t step out there and tell them about what you do and why you love doing it. People who don’t know you will hardly find their ways to come into your connection and space if they don’t ‘see’ or ‘hear’ about you.

It’s time to dance the Dance beyond the space of the dance floor

We are mindful, aware, and know how to be generous, kind, and supportive – let’s trust that. Let’s stop passively consuming information and start proactively creating specific awareness. Be wanting to take part in lighting that big fire, co-host space, gather new and old friends around it, point out the star that guides your way, talk and sing about what you love to do and have to offer to the world. I myself have consciously decided to do this 10 years ago and I consider the success of the YT during those years and the presence of DM in the local and global space has been more than satisfactory. I am contented. Now I am in the flow and I want to inspire and share my learnings.

Have we gathered enough sticks and firewood of awareness? Hopefully, some bones of resistance are strung to the wood pile. Let’s light the fire of resolve and let your spirit’s wings soar you high into the vastness. No, I am suggesting not by yourself alone but together with your tribe so the whole sky can be seen shining.

The light of your essence will guide the path. If you are in and aware of it, let’s light it up and keep it glowing.. together we can tend to it bright enough to keep the warmth, and let others see you clearly as you guide the way.


By writing about this specific topic, doesn’t mean that I am unaware of or fail to acknowledge other possibilities. For the sake of keeping focus, I’ve chosen to talk about only this topic today. If you wish to comment on this post please offer your own feeling, thoughts, and experience, and kindly NOT comment with any links to others’ articles or other subjects. I warmly welcome your own words and invite you to keep it on the topic that has been discussed here. Thank you!


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  • sebbritten
    sebbritten
    March 31, 2021

    This morning, like every winter mornings, I was out to cut wood and collect it to start the fire that would warm the house and body. Something special hapenned, early this morning.
    I noticed (in the rare silence of my mind these days) birds chippering in the distance. New arrival of small birds! It made me realise, in that instant, that I was fully aware of my surroundings, of life. After starting the fire I noticed douzen (maybe hundreds) of small birds had
    invaded the trees all around my home. Very gently, I openned the window and took time to observe the gift of life, a surprise from spring… In that moment life felt so simple. Spontaneity, Nothing to prove, nothing to do simply observation and delight, similar to what I feel during the sensitivity dance.

    ”We want to perform well, to be received as great or more than just good enough. Anything wrong with that?
    What do you think?”
    for me it is because of the responsability I have towards the dansers that are present. The fact that (for me) the experience of connection through a computer screen is still a bit scary. It makes me nervous sometimes.
    Nervous because spontaneity and connection are less present (for me) in the online process (as a facilitator). Some people dance in the dark, cameras are focused on walls or ceilings, some are complitely of screen…etc. and it’s ok! but maybe that situation is taking me to the ”performance”, the importance of following a text, the long hours making the playlist wondering if this song will scare some or be too much or put people to sleep…?
    but most of the time these thoughts fade away, as the session progress and most of the time I let my heart speak and end up letting go of the ego. But it has been a challenge (from what I remember) and it brings resistance and doubts that I struggle with.

    ”…No one will know about what you’re offering if you don’t step out there and tell them about what you do and why you love doing it. People who don’t know you will hardly find their ways to come into your connection and space if they don’t ‘see’ or ‘hear’ about you.”
    I have read this section multiple times to see if It could feel less emotional so I could write about it?
    I have always had a problem with this. Even for the (in person) live sessions I offered over the past years.
    Those two phrases up there I should use as a mantra? I have told many people about my love for Dm and our community it is no secret. For me, resistance! I still see it as promotion and it raises the question of how much I judge myself, harshly, so, I will leave it at that for now and try and reflect on it…
    But you know what ? after reading again (before posting) ”the little birds story”
    (I was tellling at the begining) It made me realize maybe this is who I am and it feels good and bright to share with you my morning story and my thoughts. It is not about promotion or ego or fear or judgement it is simply woods and sticks that light the essence of who I am?

    • Areeradh

      I found much resonance with this “Very gently, I openned the window and took time to observe the gift of life, a surprise from spring… In that moment life felt so simple. Spontaneity, Nothing to prove, nothing to do simply observation and delight, similar to what I feel during the sensitivity dance.” 09 Sensitivity Dance yes indeed. Those gifts are everywhere, especially in nature, are full of delight. What I’m learning is to see the gift in imperfections too. And I would also add, for me, it’s ‘No need to prove anything just expression from the heart’ and ‘No-thing to do, just being open, honest and without judging. Then all feel just as it is, simple and easy. Of course, it’s a process and I’m still a learner.

  • Mirte
    Mirte
    April 9, 2021

    Dropping little sparks of Dm here and there to raise the awareness of this practice, which is so much into our hearts and our life, is as important as a good preparation of a Dm session. I am aware of that and in the same time I resonate with Sebastian, it also feels so uncomfortable. Even though people who know me know I practice Dm, know that it makes my heart beat faster when I talk about it, still I feel so much resistance in really promoting it. Partly because the medium Facebook, where i know I can reach people, is an unpleasant space. I am just not in control of who I attract, but isn’t it with all kinds of publicity? When I gave live session here in a small studio, I would leave flyers around town, advertise in a local magazine and offer free trails. Aslo then it is scary because you don’t know who will show up. So in the end it might be the same?
    Thank you for these words Areeradh.
    It’s so double.. I love doing this, I love to see more faces on the screen when facilitating and somehow I dont like to show my own face and introduce myself as a Dm facilitator on the internet…. For me this also has something to do with self esteem, with fear of failing, with fear of judgement. Some inner work that is waiting silently for the right moment to present itself and stir up things. And maybe that moment is now? Maybe the only way out is in?

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